I have read the rantings of these sellout black women. See the problem between black men and black women dating has been festering for a long time. I decided to call this blog entry "Black men made me do it". I have been touching on the personal responsibility aspect of sellout black women. It seems when things go wrong in their lives they blame black men for this. I have pointed out the contradictions in all the sellout blogs. Somebody said in my blog that I am to ignorant to understand Sara, Evia and Khadijia. I am ignorant but nobody debates the points I put out there. I have accurately documented what they have been saying. I find it funny that they have to defend their doctrine or "change it".
Here is an example of Evia trying to keep her credibility together to sell her books and essays.
"Let me EMPHATICALLY state that I've never said that bw should ONLY choose white men or non-black men, but it is firmly lodged in the minds of some of my readers that I'm only talking about non-black men when I mention Quality men. Why is that? I'd suggest that people who think like that explore that in their own minds. I have never said that. And I've NEVER lived that--because I dated men of all skin shades. I married a Quality black man, and there are plenty of other bm like him where he came from."
Now Evia is full of shit. Maybe she is changing her doctrine to sell more books. I have read her blog off and on for years. She advocated for black women to be with a white man only. Then she backtracked on the statement when some black women were complaining "white men" were not interested in them like she "claimed they would be". Then she mentions the Nigerian Man she married. Allegedly, she left that Nigerian man for a white man. She never tells you why that marriage broke up. That is for good reason. Now she wants to preach to her readers on how to date and live WELL.
Here is Evia bowing to the pressure to include the "so called" minority men of the "so called" Global Village. I told people years ago about "sellout black women" using white man as a ploy to get more attention from "minority men of the global village". You have to understand something. You can't force white men to go with your plan. Evia actually makes black women look bad because "things were not" moving fast enough for black women so she "compromises". She has no integrity, or loyalty.
Here is Evia "bending over"
"Anyway, as a result of that lengthy discussion I had this weekend and in order to present yet another option for Quality mates to AA women, I decided I would add a section to this site that focuses on the various Quality men of color from other cultures in the global village who mate and marry black women or AA women. I have various AA female acquaintances, friends, and relatives who are married to bm from other cultures. The men have proven to be Quality men."
LOL Look at this shit. Looks like the pressure to sell them essays and books is making Evia "bow" down. This is really sad if you asked me.
Here is Evia responding to one her readers when she mentions White men dating Asians.
"I am so attracted to wm and they are seemingly attracted to me too. What caused my discouragement is when a married coworker began outrageously flirting with me. To me he was gorgeous - very attractive with hot blue eyes and a classical rocker type (he's about 46, I'm 48 but don't look it). I don't play with married men so he was off limits, but the more I got to know him, I really liked him. He was flirtatious with me but he is married to an asian woman. This is when my depression began. I started to look around and realize that a great deal of wm in NYC are dating/marrying asian women."
Evia responding
A significant (not the whole) part of the reason for this is because Asian women don't fret much about their image as the docile "Asian dolls" because it works for them. They didn't pitch themselves as the "strong" woman who "won't take no stuff" as did so many bw and some bw have STILL not gotten the memo that the "strong" bw is a counterproductive image. It's actually a deadly image for those AA women who are killing themselves to fit that image. And if the 'strong bw' is not fully dead yet, she won't be around much longer because she's not reproducing much at all these days and/or her children are most at risk.
"Let me get this right, black women must tap dance and show their teeth instead of being themselves to keep a white man. What is wrong with being a strong black woman?
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"Also, in an unabashed and unapologetic way, the Asian women got the word to white men that they not only wanted white men, they let the word slip that they preferred wm. They didn't feel the need to come up with 697 reasons for it. I read articles where a group of Asian women stated clearly they preferred white men because it would enable them to assimilate easier in American society and move up-up-up. They said it would give their children many more benefits to have white fathers in America than Asian fathers. They had concrete and sensible reasons for preferring wm."
I read a sociological article that states Asian Americans overall make more than "other races including whites". Since 90% of Asians stay within their race how does a white man help them move up? Basically what Evia is saying is your balding white man will get a job being the understudy for Warren Buffet and you will live like a Queen. Usually this fantasy never happens.
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Some AA women still have a problem saying they want to 'marry up' otherwise known as marrying shrewdly or marrying strategically because they're afraid some dimwitted DBR/ABC man or woman is going to accuse them of being a gold-digger. Also, some AA women actually think there's something wrong with doing a deliberate assessment of the benefits that a man can bring to your life. MOST other groups of women have NO problem or hesitance about doing that. There are very clear reasons why AA women are doing so poorly in the marriage mart.
"Uh this little rant she did is all good. Unfortunately, this is a gold digger talk. She just substitutes words. Wtf is strategic marriage, reading his bank statements and asking him what stocks he invests in. Poor Evia, you wonder why she left her Nigerian man to be a bed wench for the supposedly well off Darren. No integrity and no loyalty does not equal strategic marriage."
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Well sorry, but even I see a typical Asian woman as more feminine than a typical AA woman because I don't ever hear about Asian women trying to "save alla our people," (like men) or worrying about what's going to happen to the other Asians (like a man should do) if they marry up. I see Asian women behaving like typical women who are considered feminine. I see Asian women behaving the way many ww, Hw, and AA men behave, who look out for themselves without trying to carry their whole community on their backs. They're mating and marrying whoever they feel will lift them up without giving anyone else a backwards glance. If anyone should perform this role among AAs, it should be AA men in the majority.
There are a bunch of reasons for some of wm-aw unions. I'll mention SOME of them. First of all, wm don't engage in monolithic thought about this. With SOME of those white guys, it is about the fact that there will be less social resistance if they marry Asian rather than a bw, but for some of others them, they would have just as readily married a bw except, honestly, you know and I know that some AA women are a real headache when it comes to IR dating, loving, and marrying wm. I run into this myself when I'm talking to AA women about the IR option sometimes offline. There's just too much hesitation, hand-wringing and drama! This is why more wm are now pursuing young African women here, instead. They don't have to deal with all of that racial angst and drama from A-Z as some have to do when they date African American women.
"As you can Evia blames YOU for treating the "Da nice white man bad" with your masculine ways and loud behavior. Poor white man doesn't want to understand your culture and dreams. Just give him the black vagina and smile more often. What is wrong with you?" Who admits that Asian women are more attractive then themselves????? Where is your pride for your own black sisters??????????
Evia continues her rants about black women so more
A typical man of any race just wants to meet a smiling, willing woman, have a low-stress relationship, have a woman to appreciate him, get married, have somebody to hug at night, have babies, and live happily ever after. LOL! There's just too much drama about racial issues in SOME of these situations, and too many AA women are constantly broadcasting how pissed off they are about this and that. That's STRIFE!! Who, in their right minds, wants that type of strife in their life? I wrote an essay entitled "ANGER IS FOR LOSERS." I pointed out in that essay that NO ONE cares whether an AA woman is angry. AA women don't blow up buildings, planes, or cruise ships, and won't even stop spending or giving away their money. AA women simply self-destruct. They implode. So why would anyone care whether an AA woman is angry??
It is really sad state of events that Evia lashes out like a judgmental old lady. Again, the nice white man should not be subjected to your mood swings and you saying no to sex on the first date. ugh you black women are driving the precious white men away with your drama. This is real pathetic that her followers put up with this self absorbed woman.
In conclusion, Evia's message has changed and some of her followers are disappointed in her. For what reason should they be disappointed, I do not know. I mean the woman was out "for herself" from the beginning. She made it seem like she "hated black men". Then turned around said her relationship with her ex Nigerian Husband is still good. Now you read into why that relationship is supposedly still good. Then she has the nerve to get angry at her readers for pointing out that she is a hypocrite. Personally, I think she wants to go mainstream and so she is trying to distance herself from her previous inflammatory comments she has made in the past.
The fact is, I was right when I said most white men do not want to date black women. Evia actually made some of these naive black women believe anything a white man said to them is gospel. So when the relationship ends because black women tend to be trusting. Evia says it is their fault. She is doing the same thing she accuses black men of doing. Putting the blame on "black women". She is the ultimate sellout. She will sell other black women down the river just to sell her essays and books in the name of female empowerment.
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I see Asian women behaving like typical women who are considered feminine. I see Asian women behaving the way many ww, Hw, and AA men behave, who look out for themselves without trying to carry their whole community on their backs. They're mating and marrying whoever they feel will lift them up without giving anyone else a backwards glance.
Evia is wrong yet again. White men marry out more than White women do. There are more White men/Asian Women marriages than there are White Women/Black men and White Women/Asian Men couples combined.
I married a Quality black man, and there are plenty of other bm like him where he came from.
Then why did you leave him for a white man?
This simply confirms the fact that white men chose black women last as mates.
The bigot is back pedaling indeed. Your analysis is right. She can't make money as a bigot in hiding. She wants to go mainstream with her crap. But regardless, she's still a bigot. The damage is already done to her own reputation. A leopard can't change its spots. A hater is just a hater.
Thanks for the comments.
She has to somewhat change to go mainstream with her essays and books. She even sees the writing on the wall. She had the opportunity earlier on her writings.
She is so linked to bashing black men it would be hard for her to make a reverse, What she should have done is stick to her original feelings and build off of it.
Instead she showed her weakness and changed her tune.
Your right rocky if the black man she was with was so good. Why she left him?
If she had started with the Global Village talk earlier than maybe more black women would be interested. They act like black women can only date white men.
"Then why did you leave him for a white man?"
Truth B. Told: How do you know she left him for a white man? Maybe her first husband left her. Even if she left him, it doesn't necessarily mean he was not a quality person (maybe she just got tired of him) and it doesn't necessarily mean that she left him FOR her current husband. How do you know she didn't meet her current husband AFTER she left her first husband.
Why are you guys so hung up on this woman? All she's saying is that black women should stop whining about the "shortage of good black men" and check out non-black men - this advice especially applies to college educated black women who are now in their 20s and 30s.
"This simply confirms the fact that white men chose black women last as mates."
Ms. Kitty: Who cares if you get "picked last", just so long as you got picked by a quality (good) man. It doesn't matter how two individuals "found" each other. The only thing that matters is that they are both good people and that they are both dedicated to bringing happiness into each other's lives.
"I was right when I said most white men do not want to date black women."
Mr. Laurelton Queens: You are correct when you say that "most white men do not want to date black women".
Let's forget about the majority of white men. Let's assume that "most" white men are unavailable to black women for serious dating and/or marriage. Let's say that only 1 to 2% of heterosexual white men would SERIOUSLY date/marry a black woman. That means that anywhere from 500,000 to 1,000,000 white men (at least) are available for college educated, single black women in their 20s and 30s to seriously date and/or marry. When you look at it that way, there are more than enough white men to go around for young, single, college educated black women.
Note: I don't care what happens to those black women who fit into the uneducated, baby mama, ghetto girl, hoochie mama, welfare queen, drug addict, etc., categories. They are lost and that's all there is to it.
@ Anon - June 29, 2009 10:29 AM
So the philosophy here, is that the best educated black women in the age group (20s &30s) ripe for marriage and starting families, should leave all the "lost" black women who fit into the uneducated, baby mama, ghetto girl, hoochie mama, welfare queen, drug addict, etc group, to black men, and instead, pursue only white and other non-black men to start families with? These highly educated black women are much too good for any black man, or the black race, for that matter, and should waste no time with such!
In other words, that pool of intellectual black women - the cream of the crop - should be siphoned off from the black race for the sole purpose of procreating a biracial nation with white and other non-black men, and to assimilate their intellectual and economic power into this biracial nation. While the lesser educated black women, whom you described as being "lost" should be left as rejected scraps, only good enough for the black men of their race, and these women should reflect the best of what a black woman is in the African American community!
Wow! You are so intellectually and economically superior to the black man now, you no longer belong to the black race, right? We are just a lump of wasted inferior biological subhuman entity, that serves no useful purpose for the the "highly evolved" black woman, who must now mate and create a new nation with a male species of similar intellectual and economic superioritiness.
You are one of the recruiters for the BLACK BRIDES OF THE KU KLUX KLAN biracial nation interracial hate movement, aren't you?
Anonymous 1:41,
You have pointed out the major "flaw" in the Clucking Hen movement. They don't care about any black woman who is not educated.
Since only something like 35% of black women in America have college degrees, this leaves out a HUGE portion of black women. Toss in women in that group who are over 40 and the number is even smaller.
Basically, they feel that only the "best" of black women deserve to "escape" the clutches of "negro male users and abusers".
This is why their "e-books" will never sell. Their message is targeted at a very small section of black American women. Not to mention the fact that plenty of educated black women are already married to black men and are not looking for a "way out".
And LOL @ "who cares if you get picked last?"
Clearly this sister wants black women to find a white man "by any means necessary". If a group of men picks you LAST that means that as a whole that group does not value you. Therefore that man's "circle" will probably not value you either. That means that your life could end up being just as "stressful" as this alleged torture from a black male is.
Whether the Clucking Hens wants to admit it or not, black men are the ONLY men on this planet who consistently choose black women FIRST. They are the only group of men who collectively have worked to protect black women and children and MANY continue to do so today.
But the Clucking Hens want to throw black men under the bus and leave all those stupid, uneducated black women in the dust. They want to further strain the relations between black men and women while they happily skip down the road with their white knight. They don't care about the "carnage" left behind. Only their "QUALITY" lives with their "QUALITY" mates.
SMDH @ this so-called "empowerment".
I would have to agree with everyone here.
There is an underlying theme of the "elite black women" battling the "lower class black women". That dynamic has always been there because "elite" black women believe all races of men should "fall over them". Now I don't think educated black women should be punished for their success.
Educated black women deserve a "good man". The problem is some of them come off as "snobs". I call it the big sister "dynamic". "Elite" black women do have sympathy for struggling black women but they wouldn't let these women near their white husband much less their "black husband".
Nobody focuses on what Evia does. I focus on her doctrine. One of the anonymous commentators did the math on white men being available for black women.
There is just one problem with your math. There is a "shortage" of white men too. There is more white women than white men. Then you factor in the Asian women and Latina women. Black women still come in dead last.
You can research it yourself. This dating issue is not exclusive to black women. All races of women are having the same issue. Black women just seem to be in the media more complaining and bashing their own race of men.
Another thing, 78 percent of black women are overweight. That would make a majority of white men not interested in them. That is the reality. I don't get joy out of it. Most black men I know do not date overweight black women.
I am the exception because I like that. I just want to clarify there is nothing wrong with being college educated and looking for the best mate. I am college educated too. I think for any relationship to be successful. Focus on a person "that fits you". Instead of seeing how your relationship "looks on paper".
If you both are lawyers. Some women think "oh the relationship will work". You both work so many hours and you wonder why your relationship crumbles. Some black women stay in a crumbling relationship just because the man got a good job. Their pride won't allow to admit this is not working.
Let me address this comment
"Note: I don't care what happens to those black women who fit into the uneducated, baby mama, ghetto girl, hoochie mama, welfare queen, drug addict, etc., categories. They are lost and that's all there is to it."
Well I think you should care. These are the same women that could end up sleeping with your man. That is the thing some sellout black women do not understand. They think a white man is immune to temptation from other "black women". Obviously the average white man that is interested in black women must have had sex with numerous black women.
That is one thing that is never discussed. The white man that is the serial dater that makes it a point to sleep with multiple black women. I remember I use to go out on dates and a black woman would say " oh I bet you are sleeping with a lot of women". I don't even think she meant it like that. I think she said it "out of habit".
Now this same black woman wouldn't address a white man this way. It almost like the white boy was a virgin. That is the benefit of the doubt you get as a white man.
They say 1 out of 2 black women have an STD (somebody research that). Clearly, black men are not the only one they are sleeping with. I never really believed that black women just are out there sleeping with people. Obviously they are drawing the wrong type of men due to "reputation".
For example a "Std" riddled white man would think of nothing to sleep with a black woman. He figures I don't plan a long term relationship with a black woman.
I remember I was on craigslist and this black woman claimed she was angry at white men because they gave her HIV. That she planned to give all these white men the virus.
I watched the theater take place. The white men wear threatening her. Some things I felt was like "terrorist threats". I have never seen such a level of anger towards a black woman in my life.
What you see here is nothing. That is when I knew white men is snakes. You always know what a person feels about you when they are angry.
Truth B. Told: How do you know she left him for a white man?
Read more carefully, anon.
Since only something like 35% of black women in America have college degrees,
Hi Rashida,
I don't even think it is that many Black women with a college degree. I read it was 18% for Black women and 12 % of Black men with a college degree.
Dear Truth
It is actually smaller than that if you were to start from the stand point of 29 percent of all Americans have a Bachelor's degree completed.
Attending college is not the same as graduating. Unfortunately, many african americans never finish college due to financial hardships.
I had documented the HBCU schools and their atrocious graduation rates.
Raina likes her school lol. It is a really damn shame that HBCU have such atrocious graduation rates.
Then again I am not surprised. Public schools for black children is horrible. I attended public schools and took the "long path" to finish my college education.
I don't blame the teachers. I blame the atmosphere and environment in urban areas. It is just a lose lose situation for black children.
Anonymous,
If a man is truly interested in any woman, she is his first choice, not his last. Black women are consistently picked last after white men have dated or married every other race of women. What you settle for, is sloppy minutes.
"They don't care about any black woman who is not educated."
Rashida: America is not a third country. No American woman is FORCED to be a baby mama, ghetto girl, hoochie mama, welfare queen, drug addict, etc. Women who fit into the aforementioned categories made a choice that this is what they wanted to be. Why should I "care" about a poor black woman who CHOOSES to have, for example, multiple children by multiple sorry negroes. I refuse to allow this to be my problem. I didn't put the woman in that situation and I'm not responsible for getting her out of it. I am responsible ONLY for myself and MY choices.
"plenty of educated black women are already married to black men and are not looking for a "way out"."
Many educated black women in their 20s thru 30s are NOT married and ARE looking for a way "out".
Here are some facts: 1)there are TWO black women in college for every ONE black male in college; 2) among young black males, ONE out of THREE are either in jail or on parole/probation or have some sort of felony conviction; 3) black women live longer than black men for a number of reasons including black males MURDER each other at exceptionally high rates.
"You are one of the recruiters for the BLACK BRIDES OF THE KU KLUX KLAN biracial nation interracial hate movement, aren't you?"
Anon 6-29-09, 1:41PM: The above comment is a joke, right? lol Assuming you are actually serious, black women outnumber black men by about 2,000,000. This means that the men are simply NOT THERE.
I am NOT going to date/marry a FELON (the very idea is DISGUSTING/FILTHY to me). I am NOT going to date/marry an uneducated man. I REFUSE to date/marry a "project", under any circumstances. I want a MAN who can take care of his business the same way I take care of my business. What's wrong with that? Who a woman marries is probably the most important decision a woman makes in her entire life, not just for herself but for her children. She has to get it right. Why should she throw the most crucial choice of her life away on a felon or some creep who decided to drop out of school (assuming he ever went in the first place)? Many young, educated, single black women are making plans for our futures and our futures do not include "rescuing" black males (or black women, for that matter) who make bad choices with their lives.
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The reason why the beauty of blackwomen is such an explosive issue, is because, nobody wants to lay all of the facts on the table. Blackwomen have been told since their birth that whitewomen, latin women, middle-eastern women, east-indian women, asian women, and polynesian women are a notch above them, Really? What do all of the women I just listed have in common? All of them have african ancestry. Admitting the truth about “Black Female Sexuality” is explosive. It would expose everything and everybody who victimized sistas for their own sexual pleasure. It would shatter “White Supremacy” as we know it.
Tyrone, why is this important? Once sistas know the real story of the Arab and European Slave Trade, They’re Free! Understand, white racism has always been about controlling and exploiting the sexuality of blackwomen. Because, once you get past all the bulls**t, it’s about who is going to have access to our women. Non-black men desire our women, and they want us brothas out of the way by any means necessary.
REMEMBER! IT’S ABOUT THE SISTAS STUPID!!!
How would some of the fools who post on this blog be able to figure anything out if they have never left the block or neighborhood they live in.
Things have already started to change.
Everyday I see more black women in this country with non-black men.
More black women are also having children with non-black men.
The chickens have come home to roost because what we are also seeing is more black women suffering from the same colorism that black men suffer.
Many black women especially the younger ones, do not want to have children with black men.
They want "pretty, light skinned" children.
The biggest losers are going to be black men who often don't have much to go for themselves in the first place.
We know because of lack of opportunities, racism and because some are just plain evil that many black men succumb to a life of crime and end up in prisons.
Many of the black prisoners are dark skinned black men.
Rarely you find light skinned black men in prison because they do not experience the racism that the darker brothers do.
Things are going to get pretty ugly for the darker skinned brothers, the majority of African American men.
Retribution is a bitch
"Anon 6-29-09, 1:41PM: The above comment is a joke, right? lol Assuming you are actually serious, black women outnumber black men by about 2,000,000. This means that the men are simply NOT THERE."
And out of that surplus 2,000,000 you're seeking to "rescue" or rather, siphon off the educated ones and leave the "lost" ones to whomever?.. Or better yet, target the educated ones from the ENTIRE black population to lead an exodus from the black race, so the surplus 2,000,000 shall only be made up of the down-and-out rejects? You can't fool me with your propaganda bullshit.
"Many young, educated, single black women are making plans for our futures and our futures do not include "rescuing" black males (or black women, for that matter) who make bad choices with their lives."
And all other accomplished black men and women should follow your lead and tell the unfortunate among us to fuck-off and go to hell. Fuck the NAACP, and other black upliftment mentorship programs and organizations. Fuck black unity and black identity. Those days are long done and over with.. since feminism I guess. Race is not family. That don't mean shit. This is the era of womanism, individualism and multiculturalism. So this is what education has done for you? Made you a "high class" haughty, bigot, using stats in a sinister plot divide black america.
"All the black women achievers come this way! I have a nice white or other non-black man for you. Don't waste a minute more thinking about those wicked, loser black 'men'."
Not so long ago black people were fighting against "whites only" signs on the entrance to just about everything. Now we have all these educated black people talking about they're sick of their own people. So they're now putting up signs saying "whites only." The feminist gender separatists have poisoned the minds of the black female against the black male, and have pretty much succeeded in dividing the black race. And so the black woman has now become an easy target for the white-worshipping interracial 'romance' bloggers who are the new mouthpiece for white supremacy and miscegenation. As a matter of fact, these bloggers themselves are the same black man hating feminists.
Oh, the last quote btw was not made by you. It's just my general interpretation of what you're saying.
Let me address the nonsense that has been posted.
Black women are not dating outside their race as much as their non black female counterparts. This whole idea black men is threatened by black women leaving is a falsehood.
I think some people believe my blog is written because I fear something. If anything I am trying to save you from the embarrassment.
I told people on my twitter I went to a talent show weeks back. I saw more black men with white women than the reverse. That is disturbing to me but it is what it is.
Now somebody floated the idea that black women will have pretty biracial babies. I am dark skin and I never had a problem getting a biracial black girl. If anything they invite dark skin me to pursue them.
Most sellout black women seem to forget to factor in social upbringing and DNA. A majority of black women have never been raised and socialized with white men. That is why most of them say "this is new to them". People always gravitate to what is comfortable to them.
That is why sellout black women blog about black men so much. Their excuse is that they have to mention us to put their argument in context or "to save other black girls".
Personally I think that is all bullshit. I just think they are attention whores and want black men to always "think about them".
That is the nature of women. When you don't care they want you to "be interested". If you are too interested than they don't want you.
Now sellout black women are saying "they were always interested in white men". They know they are lying and trying to cover their ass. They are saying " well there is not black men so I will take a white man". Like it was a thanksgiving and the macaroni and cheese is done.
To be continued
Let me address these "so called" plans of young black women.
Clearly, not having sex is not in their plans. The CDC says young black women 1 out of 2 of them got an STD. Yea they are really planning their future by having "careless sex".
I don't know why people come on here spreading misinformation. There has been a rise in black women having black children and even if they had kids by a white man that child would be considered black.
That is simply the reality. Now I do agree there is a shortage of men in college but that goes for all races of men. The Times Magazine did an article about "Why are young man not going to college". The exception is Indian and Asian men. Indian and Asian men have a low opinion about black women.
That would be another blog entry to discuss that. Indian and Asian men are just not vocal about their lack of interest in black women. Yet the black women spokespeople will convince you that they desire them.
Men in general have a low opinion of women that bash their own race of men. Even the white men that read my blog dislike that.
I often read other blogs some of them racist. White men will say " oh see those black girls even call black men savages'. Guess what I wouldn't date a "negress".
Yea the same white man you worship. Then they wonder why black men can't have a civil conversation with them.
I don't want to have a civil conversation with you. You caused this mess in the first place with your bad attitude and vanity. Now when your fucked up and struggling it is the black man's fault.
I remember I was dating my ex girlfriend in Hofstra. She pointed this nerdy black kid. He was like a prodigy in college. I was in "thug mode" back then. I glanced over and she said "Yea he got an internship at some big company". He had a BMW, the kid looked like Urkel. I said " why your friend ain't date him"? She said he was nerdy! I glanced over and saw a fine ass white girl get in his car.
I said 'Your friends are stupid". She laughed. I didn't laugh, I was like "yo I need to be a nerd". Then I decided to hit the books. I failed the first exam to get into community college lol. I finally got in because they felt sorry for me. Then I went onto undergrad. I almost didn't get in again lol.
I told the white man " Let me I swear I will get on the Dean's list by graduation. I graduated and ended up on the Dean's list. I had my opportunities to sellout once I graduated. The problem I had dating was the educated black women either were to desperate or insecure or to conceded.
Some of these black women will never learn.
"Things are going to get pretty ugly for the darker skinned brothers, the majority of African American men.
Retribution is a bitch"
Scaremongering nonsense.
This entire blog is the result of fear.
It is deep fear why you went over to the handsome Swede Andreas's blog "blackisbeautiful" and have been trying hard to promote hatred against black women.
It is not going to work, the dude is a real man. Learn a thing or two from him.
Everytime a white man shows interest in black women many of you feel threatened.
Things are changing. Black women no longer see black men as the only option.
They know that they are lovely non-black men out there who are much better than you because they are ready and mush better prepared to be husbands and fathers.
Mark my word, you will be seeing black women rising up while many of you black men will succumb more and more to black on black crime, despair and a life in prison.
Many of you are just not prepared to live in an advanced and civilized world.
Walk inside the ghettos of America, they are packed with black men standing on the sidewalk with brown paper bags in their hands. Many have never worked in their lives and don't plan to ever.
Once those ghetto women who are really the only ones looking at them, decide to mate with ligher skinned men, and many have began already, this will be the end of the poor negroes in the guettos, the majority of black men in the big ole USA.
Tyrone:
Speak the truth to all those knuckleheads and ignorant black men.
Since the black man does not know how to take care of his business, the Arab and the European have ran amock over him by taking over his birthrite and his resources.
These black men cannot even see the big picture. They believe the black women is their enemy.
All of this is so good for the Arabs and the Europeans who now are ready for the demise of the black man.
Women cannot be destroyed. It is no problem for these men to mate with black women.
The Arabs will tell you, when they colonized Africa, they mated with the African women and African men were not permitted to mate with Arab women.
It was the same thing with the Europeans.
It is recently, just yesterday that black men are mating with non-black women.And you are making a big deal out of it as if it is anything.
It is not going to last either, because the small gains you have made will collapse with racism and economic decline.
And it is usually the lower class Arab women and European women who usually sleep with black men.
But it is not the same with black women.There are black women who are married to some of the highest Arab and European men.
Remember, Socialite Gloria Vanderbilt and her black boyfriend- Bobby Short. She never married him.Mark my word.
"These black men cannot even see the big picture. They believe the black women is their enemy.
All of this is so good for the Arabs and the Europeans who now are ready for the demise of the black man. Women cannot be destroyed."
The black man does not see the black woman as his enemy. The black man has never founded any organization that seeks a gender war with black woman. It's the feminist black woman inspired by and led astray by her white counterpart, that as heaped scorn and spread hatred against black men. You and your nonsense about divesting yourselves of black boys and men, and writing open letter to white men telling them you're available and all that crazy nonsense. And on your interracial ANTI-BLACK MAN HATE SPEECH blogs you incite the most unbridled hatred towards black men. Black women on your blogs are now talking about "getting a white man with a gun" to presumably protect themselves from the greatest evil, that is black man.
Btw, women are mere mortal beings just like men, so they can be destroyed. You cannot have black woman without black man. The feminists have warped your mind to such a degree with the woman liberation and self-empowerment indoctrination, that some of you speak about women as if they are a race unto themselves. I feel sorry for you.
"It is recently, just yesterday that black men are mating with non-black women.And you are making a big deal out of it as if it is anything.
It is not going to last either, because the small gains you have made will collapse with racism and economic decline."
Most black men are not in bed with non-black women. And most of us, have no interest in other races of women. Black men by and large love black women. I don't know where you get the idea that most black men prefer non-black women, and are boasting about having a white woman. Those guys are the minority of black men.
You say the black man see the black woman as his enemy, yet you can post your angry messages here on a black man's blog without them being deleted. But can a black man express himself at will without his comments being deleted from your black woman interracial blogs? Let's see that happen. The gender competition has gotten out of hand, don't you think? We compete for education, we compete for jobs, we compete for power. Now it's let's see who has the highest rate of out-of-race relationships? Madness.
"This entire blog is the result of fear."
Actually it's a rebuttal to the many lies, misconceptions and anti-black man hate speech on your so-called interracial 'romance' blogs. Romance my ass.
I have been reading the comments.
They always wants to talk about all the negative things black men do. We are the only race of men that these "other" races of men fear. They make laws to stop us from dating their white women (Ended up failing). Then you mention Arabs and Asians. Give me a break there is only a fraction of Arabs that have the wealth. The same thing with Asians.
You want to mention them "taking over Africa". They are not taking over nothing. If you have to pay off another black man to attack another black man. That's not power, that is called extortion.
Black people is the only race that forced change with violence. With all due respect to Jews we never went to an Oven willingly. We raised hell every place we went too.
Power is when you cause "white flight". Make people uncomfortable enough to move out of the way. If mexican immigrants had the financial means to avoid black people trust me they would.
Sometimes I get the white power types on my blogs. I actively read white nationalist blogs. All I read is the Jew "owns' me or how intelligent they are.
If you was so intelligent why is black people supposedly murdering you and taking your white woman. You wasn't smart enough to stop it now was you.
I don't advocate black men dating white women. Obviously, it is not hard to date a white women. Black men don't force them to drop their panties. You can cry and whine about it. What are you going to do about it? I want you to say something!
I think a pussy on this blog said that black men dating non black women will not last due to racism and the economic conditions of the country.
You will never stop a black man from making money. So you can make excuses as to "why it is still going on". It is happening bitch get used to it.
The shit that made me laugh is Arabs and Asians are ready for our demise. The Somali's extort you and you didn't do shit about it. Those Africans will continue to extort you for the rest of your god damn life.
Ask yourself why they give those Africans the money. They don't war in that region where important cargo must go through. I guess the dumb Africans own you pussy!
They act like black people don't adapt to what is going in the world. Petty threats lol, my great grandfather was a slave in Jamaica and ran to the mountains on the British. I am a Maroon. Dark slave descendant. I am not afraid of ANYTHING!
Let further mention.
"Fear is stronger than love". I rather be feared than loved. Fear is always a strong emotion. The bravado other races of men display they get it from black men. They would like to have that masculine image without the discrimination.
Even the sellout black women they are with mold them into black men. That is why I say most white men are emasculated by black women. Black women would like to mold you into men they knew from child hood. A strong masculine man they admired growing up.
Every black I ever dated or showed interest in me. They said you are so much like my father as far as aggressive personalities. Most women date men like their father subconsciously. That can be a good or "bad" thing.
I don't view black women are an enemy. Black women are the interest of black men. Therefore I will protect "my interests". I find it important to do.
Like 80 percent of non black men wouldn't be interested in the average black girl. Yet, they want use black men as a scapegoat as to why they avoid black women. Na you avoid us because we know what your doing. You trying to take advantage of them. So don't give me that shit about black men made me 'scared".
All the black girls I ever dated had like 3 or 4 brothers bigger than I was. I had no choice but to do the right thing. Not all black women got brothers and fathers to protect them. So na I will never apologize for my blog.
At the end of the day it sends a message. They like to pick on the less fortunate black people. The black people that may not have had the resources or role models to go further in life.
Why don't you come pick on me. I got a college education and a job. You won't pick on black men that are educated and made a way for themselves. That is why I never respect sellouts and white nationalist types. They talk tough but you will never ever catch them in a black neighborhood.
You will catch me at town hall meetings, churches, talent shows. I am actively saying how I feel. I even see chicken george negros bring up Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson. You knock them but what have you done at all but do a blog about empowerment. You never leave your house or farm but you claim your empowering people.
I am not empowering anybody. I am not a pro black militant or none of that. I am a writer period. If you ask my opinion on the blog or public I will tell you it. I take personal responsibility for my actions.
How would some of the fools who post on this blog be able to figure anything out if they have never left the block or neighborhood they live in.
No one on this blog has ever mentioned where they live, as far as I know. Most of us are college educated black men and women. We have been "other" places and in "other" environments.
Things have already started to change.
No they have not. Black women are still single.
Everyday I see more black women in this country with non-black men.
Good for you. Glad that you make it a point to notice all those sisters with white men. Do you keep a running tally?
More black women are also having children with non-black men.
Black women are having children with black men too. Same old, same old.
The chickens have come home to roost because what we are also seeing is more black women suffering from the same colorism that black men suffer.
Black women have ALWAYS suffered from the same colorism. In fact, they are typically much more vocal about it than men are. Same old, same old.
Many black women especially the younger ones, do not want to have children with black men.
They want "pretty, light skinned" children.
We all know this. The IRR Evangelicals are obssessed with anything NOT black - this includes their potential "Halle Berry Babies" (HBBs).
The biggest losers are going to be black men who often don't have much to go for themselves in the first place.
LOL @ this. Stop....just STOP.
We know because of lack of opportunities, racism and because some are just plain evil that many black men succumb to a life of crime and end up in prisons.
Many of the black prisoners are dark skinned black men.
This is because whites practice colorism. They invented it, perpetuate it and benefit from it.
Rarely you find light skinned black men in prison because they do not experience the racism that the darker brothers do.
When you lay up under your white knight in the dark while he strokes your naps, please ask him why he feels more comfortable around light-skinned blacks.
Things are going to get pretty ugly for the darker skinned brothers, the majority of African American men.
Things have been ugly for black men in this country for centuries, no amount of bed-hopping by rejected black women is going to change anything - for better or worse.
Retribution is a bitch
L. O. L.
Dear Rashida
They kept talking about black men and struggling. The economy is going to crash and burn . So they better get used to seeing black faces.
It is funny how everyone wants to get along when shit goes bad for them.
For example, it is so funny to me that Bernie Madoff steals everyone's investment. Then they want to lock him up for being a fraud. The sad thing he never invested in the stock market ever. Even he knew it was a scam.
Investments are gambling. Nobody forced these people to invest with Bernie Madoff. The man said he could get you 10 percent on your investment every year no matter what.
Anybody with common sense knows that nearly impossible. It is amazing what white privilege does to people and especially negros on my blog.
The economy is in shambles and they talking about "how powerful" the white man is. That is all a sham. Power where exactly when a fraction of the country owns all the wealth. They act like they know Warren Buffet and Bill Gates personally.
"The CDC says young black women 1 out of 2 of them got an STD. Yea they are really planning their future by having "careless sex"."
Mr. Laurelton Queens: What the CDC report didn't say was that black women are getting these STDs from black males in almost all cases. Many of these black males have been in jail/prison and got STDs from their MALE sex partners from when they were incarcerated. Many black males are or have been on the "down-low", especially the ones who have been in jail/prison.
My advice to black women is stay away from black males who have been incarcerated. DO NOT give them a "chance", under ANY circumstances.
NOTE: Once black women disconnect from black males, roughly 90% of their problems will be solved.
Once black women remove themselves from Black residential areas, they will be physically safer. This is because they won't be around black males who are shooting bullets all over the place. They won't be around black male carjackers, etc. Their spirits will also be safer because they won't be subjected to black male street harassment.
Once black women stop socializing in settings filled with black males, their self-confidence as women will probably rise.
Once black women stop interacting with black males, unless they are contributing something of value to their lives, they will have more peace of mind.
Separating from the vast majority of black males will NATURALLY solve MOST of black women's problems.
Dear Anonymous
Separate from black males would be interesting. Let's say black women do that. I would assume you think the white man would take in all the overweight black women and date them.
I got a newsflash for you most black men have other worries in life then to worry about if you "move away". Judging from the emails I get from black men. I really think some black women "are delusional".
Oh let's not forget the single black mothers with several kids. Yea let them move away from black men and see who "else" would care about them. Black men tend to be active in their community and doing positive things but that is never shown in the media.
Women are social creatures. You think black women are going to leave their male cousins and brothers and that will solve their problems.
Problems is far deeper than separation.
I actually want to see that happen. A whole bunch of black women exiling themselves from black men and "hanging out with each other". That would make a good reality show.
The real problem is you need to stop blaming black men for your problems. Learn to take personal responsibility for yourselves. White women, Asian women and Latin do not feel the need to say they must separate from their men to "make it".
That shows a weakness in your personality that you cannot make good decisions without "help".
For example if they banned all alcohol than I wouldn't be a drunk.
Very poor excuse and once you again you fail.
Try another idea. Your just hurting yourselves. You are looking at the perspective as to punish black men for whatever reason.
Instead of looking at you doing wrong. I will give you an example a fat black woman on blackplanet with three kids saying " If you don't with me it's your loss".
I am not mad she fat with three kids. I am mad she can't see the reality of her situation. That is the same feeling I get when you said black women should separate from black men.
Mr. Laurelton Queens said:
Separate from black males would be interesting. Let's say black women do that. I would assume you think the white man would take in all the overweight black women and date them.
My response:
I'm not the sort that thinks a man (of whatever race) is THE ANSWER to black women's concerns. Separating from black men does not NECESSARILY mean trying to hook-up with a white man. It means, more than anything, achieving a better quality of life for black women and children. Black residential areas, first of all, are DANGEROUS places. They are not safe, especially for WOMEN. A major key to black women's PEACE OF MIND is getting away from the cesspools that some still call the "black community". The frightening crime rates (murder, rape, child sexual abuse, etc.), CAUSED BY BLACK MEN, is what makes black areas unsafe for CIVILIZED people. Let black men stay there and kill each other since that is what so many of them like to do.
Mr. Laurelton Queens said:
I got a newsflash for you most black men have other worries in life then to worry about if you "move away". Judging from the emails I get from black men. I really think some black women "are delusional".
My response:
I'm happy that black men are not worried about black women. I'm certainly not worried about them.
Mr. Laurelton Queens said:
Women are social creatures. You think black women are going to leave their male cousins and brothers and that will solve their problems.
My response:
Black women of sound mind will leave their male relatives if those male relatives are not providing anything positive in their lives which in most cases they are not.
Mr. Laurelton Queens said:
The real problem is you need to stop blaming black men for your problems. Learn to take personal responsibility for yourselves. White women, Asian women and Latin do not feel the need to say they must separate from their men to "make it".
My response:
White, Asian and Latin men are NOT murdering each other and white, Asian and Latin women the way black men are MURDERING each other and black women.
The fate of black women DOES NOT have to be tied to what happens with black men.
Black men, on average, NEED black women more than black women need them. In many cases, as you no doubt know, black men wouldn't have a place to stay if not for their mamas/sisters/bed partners, etc. lol
Black women are in control. Black women control most of the money and resources in the so-called "black community". If black women withdrew their support (financial, emotional, sexual) from black men, MOST black "men" would disappear, lol.
Laurelton,
I've commented several times about FEMINIST GENDER SEPARATISTS, and they unashamedly continue to come here to show the folly of their ways. The source of their own misery as a lot to do with their own making.
This woman is saying separate the men from the women & children.. Does this include the male children? Does this woman want the black community to have a totally female-headed household totally void of FATHERS so the boys shall grow without any male influence. Is this already not a part of the huge problems in the black community, where all this antisocial and deviant males never had good role models and a patriarchal figure to raise them with a firm hand, and guide them along a path that would lead to a wholesome and good life? These are the counterproductive bigoted poisonous ideas that the feminists have been breastfeeding to the girls and women in the black community for decades. The hatred of men and fathers, and the belief that women and children (including boy children - future men) are better off without them.
The feminist flip-flopping fools such as the likes of Sara and Evia spend a great deal heaping scorn on black men while simutaneously evangelizing about the need for good fathers and husbands! They use one hand to sow the seeds of hatred and destruction against their own race of men and use the other hand to teach women how worthless their men are, and the need to "get out."
Black men must get busy to form their own secret organizations to pursue their vital interests, (away from the influence of the wicked meddlers) for their own good. Black men have allowed for too long, others with evil intentions to INFLUENCE THE UPBRINGING OF THEIR SONS. Black men have allowed others to dictate to them who they are and what need to do to be accepted as men. Shun this. Black men must define a NEW MANHOOD for themselves that guarantee a lifestyle of empowerment and success in all things. You must teach your sons what it's meant to be a man in 2009 and beyond, and to guard against the opposing forces of true manhood. At all times you must put SELF-DEVELOPMENT & EMPOWERMENT above the follies of life. Never invest your talent and money in others more than you do for yourselves. And always network with each other to develop your own economic and industrial base. Above all things, allow no feminist/woman supremacist or white supremacist propagandists to poison the minds of young black boys with self-hate, so that they become angry, disillusioned, unfocused, disruptive and a menace and failure to themselves and the black male population as a whole. You already see the results of the WAR AGAINST BOYS. Accept it for what it is, and deal with it.
Let me address the person that addressed me.
You said black men like to kill each other so black women should leave. Nobody likes killing each other. Things are done for a reason. Since you have no concept of the streets and the mentality of it. No black mother wants to leave her son to get killed in the street. So stop the bullshit of moving away. You sound silly and stupid.
It must have hurt your heart when I told you most black men that email really don't care. Black men get jobs on their own. Where you get this idea that black men depend on black women. Your mother is supposed to take care of you. Quite often I hear black men say they "raised" themselves. So stop that "emasculation doctrine" and go run that game on a white man.
I can't recall any black man I know that got "substantial money from black women. If anything we have subsided you with paying for dates, dinner and gifts. Now if you really want to go there . It is no problem. I promise you will lose and you will be running to the white man for his bank account.
Black women are not in control because they never exhibit it. The go to church and their the majority but the men run the church. Black women do not exercise their power.
Also, some of your power comes from Family court. Where they extort black men for child support for your bad decision of sleeping with this man. You are rewarded for bad decisions.
How you make more money than us. Stop listening to media propaganda.
If you want to separate that is fine. Don't ask for child support. Don't ask for alimony. Pay for your own meal at dinner.
Listen that just ain't happening so run to a white man.
Separation lol that is funny. Not even Evia says that. She says ride the coattails of a white man. She doesn't want black women alone and separated.
"NOTE: Once black women disconnect from black males, roughly 90% of their problems will be solved."
It seems most of u have already disconnected. It is said that 70% of you are single. No men co-habiting with u. Please share the great benefits that these VICTORS are enjoying so that the other 30% shall make haste to join them.
Anon said:
Mark my word, you will be seeing black women rising up while many of you black men will succumb more and more to black on black crime, despair and a life in prison.
Menelik said:
this is a prospect you appear to be celebrating in advance. Are you ok in the head?
Anon said:
Many of you are just not prepared to live in an advanced and civilized world.
Menelik said:
I guess the above answers my question lol
Menelik Charles
London England
Anon said:
is recently, just yesterday that black men are mating with non-black women.And you are making a big deal out of it...
Menelik said:
well, actually, no, this is an utterly unfounded assertion, sweety! The only people who ever made a "big deal" out of Black men dating, mating or marrying white women are white men and Black women!
Anon said:
Black women who are married to some of the highest Arab and European men. Remember, Socialite Gloria Vanderbilt and her black boyfriend- Bobby Short. She never married him.
Menelik said:
You don't much like being a Black woman do you, love?
Menelik Charles
London England
Anon said:
I'm happy that black men are not worried about black women. I'm certainly not worried about them.
Menelik asked:
then what on earth are you doing here, darling? It simply doesn't add up, ducky! If you don't care then just "seperate" and go seek out an Arab gentleman (with a Burka at the ready) or some white knight with his stamp collection!
Surely, it must make you unhappy to be posting here if you are made happy by us not being in your life. Why be unhappy, sweety? You got the 'Daddy didn't love me blues'?
Menelik Charles
London England
Mr. Laurelton Queens,
I have been watching you and your co-supporters some time now.
No disrespect intended, but, the positions you have taken in your essays only prove the legitimacy, and accuracy of the black women empowerment bloggers you are at war with. I’ve watched many of your readers try to point this out to you, only to be rebuked with apathy, and rage. There is a huge degree of HYPOCRISY,
dehumanization, andDISORGANIZATION present in your work here—which further discredits your righteous anger.
•You (and some others) claim to be “unbothered” by black women empowerment activists, and interracial activists (the two are distinct) yet you and others have gone to great lengths to attempt to refute what you believe to be demagoguery and slander. I’ve read on your blog, and a few others the goal of modeling your blog or seeking the same results (volume, following, controversy, ect) of both Evia, and Khadija. In one breath you dismiss them, yet in another, you acknowledge them.
•You are unable to constructively analyze, debate, and present your positions without threatening, attacking, and shaming the black women empowerment bloggers individually. There is a HUGE difference between attacking their positions versus attacking them as individuals. No publisher in their right mind would carry your work with the level of hatred you display for these women which almost teeters on the edge of being harassment/threats. The manner in which you have done so, further feeds into the stereotype of black men being violent.
•When you, Rocky, and some others speak about the circumstances, attributes, and ?character? traits you believe are best for black women, you leave your reader with one of two images:
a)The former situation in both the Congo and Rwanda in which nude, hungry, sleep deprived African women, and girls were placed in cages and make shift factories only to be gang raped, beat, mutilated, and later forced to birth children from rape.
b)Black women and girls who are forced to remain in unregistered, and unholy partnerships, living in substandard conditions, forced to be dominated to her own injury in the name of serving and pleasing her man because that is supposedly the purpose of human/her life. Black women and girls expected to imitate the sexual mores, and behaviors of pornographers, prostitutes, and other sexually perverted human trafficking experiments.
Attempting to compare, and contrast all American women( but especially, black American women) to the peasants, prostitutes, pornographers, and hospitality workers of Brazil, The Islands, and South East-Asia leaves a sound minded reader of any gender with those images.
It’s clear that you expect us to shut up, put up, and put out on demand without any legitimate, holy, conditions.
And finally, you claim to tolerate black women yet at the same time, I’ve seen you refer to us in both your essays and commentary as:
“Pussies”
“Bitch”
“Dike”
Finally, you have failed to articulate any viable solutions for both black men, women, and children at all. Instead you in one breath claim to not mind full figured women yet in another breath are happily engaged in spouting off statistics about the obesity rates of black women.
In one paragraph you claim to be bothered by what you percieve to be class warfare of the Black women empowerment bloggers but in the same paragraph consider the lower income segment of our ethnic community as "rejects." Which is it?
What are the solutions? Furthermore, for those of us, who respect our scriptures which clearly defines rights and responsibilities between family members, why should we discard it to base our family life off of " in the wind trends" like open marriages, orgies, and the imitation of pornographers/prostitution?
Mrs.Abdul-Rasheed said:
Finally, you have failed to articulate any viable solutions for both black men, women, and children at all. Instead you in one breath claim to not mind full figured women yet in another breath are happily engaged in spouting off statistics about the obesity rates of black women.
Menelik says:
go easy on the sister, bro, she makes some valid points!
Menelik Charles
London England
Dear Mrs.Abdul-Rasheed
I always like debating an intelligent black woman. The perspective you see from my blog is different from mine. What "other" black female bloggers do is debase black men. They call it speaking the "truth'. I attempt to do so.
Now the name calling. Bitch or pussy is reserved for those who go out of their way to disrespect me. I rarely use those words on my blog. I personally think there is no need for it. Trust me words don't bother me. If some black women feel I am an asshole I can accept that.
I have been accused of not "coming across" respectful. That is fine, nobody is perfect. I am an avid reader of blogs. For the people that are novices at reading blogs. They are unable to see subliminal messages in blogs black women send. My reaction is going to "strange" to those readers.
Until they read it and say "did she say black men are those things". I get to the point and retaliate. I don't dance around and wonder why you said that.
I am not bothered by the reasons that some black women feel that attack them. They are assuming this is personal. Prior to me writing on my blog. I saw a shift in the media and articles that were bashing black men. I found it very disturbing.
I didn't have a blog. I would just comment on the sellout black girls blog. They censored me. At first they didn't censor me because " I drew people to their blog". I decided to do my "own" thing. I care more about black men being "blamed' for everything that goes bad in a black woman's life than their little rants on their blogs.
Another thing, I think some black women bloggers feel like they don't got a voice to say how they feel to black men. That is fine , I respect that. But they don't offer solutions and on top of that are unaware of their "own faults". The fail to look at why black men see them the way they do. It is not only black men viewing this way. Non black men just don't say nothing to you about it. Because they don't you assume they respect you.
Let me continue on the next page
Mrs.Abdul-Rasheed
Continuing on
You mention I acknowledge certain black female bloggers. I mention them in the context of why I have a problem with their doctrine. It provided me material to write about. This blog is not about politics, pro black militancy, or so much putting down black women.
I do it for entertainment and to challenge their the interracial dating topic. Is interracial dating right for black women? Are they getting positive results from interracial dating. I never hear tough questions asked towards white males about their intentions with black women. I am going to ask, whether, they like it or not.
I am not concerned about publishers. They said that you used to need a record company to release music. I got so much content and marketing ability. I am not concerned.I rather have a radio show than to write a book or essay and attempt to sell it. I really don't believe people read a 100 to 200 page book.
People got a short attention span. I am good. Some UK people contacted me about my blog and thought it was interesting. I am not concerned. i have only been writing my blog for a year or so.
Black men are thought of as violent regardless. I am a dark skin man. If you want to smile and tap dance with these women. It is highly unlikely. The topic just generates "passion". I want to be aggressive on my blog for a reason.
Congo and Rwanda has nothing to do with me. That is a human rights issue. Maybe white colonialism is the catalyst for that happening. So many theories as to why Africa is in the shape it is. You can't just blame black men ALONE. I am disturbed by the violence and rape. There is no excuse for that
I plan to work on solutions. I am a sociologist. The theatrics are still going to be there. I would have to really sit down and think of solutions.
I never contrasted black women to prostitutes or other things you mentioned. Society did that. Once upon a time in this country they had carnivals showing African slave women and their "big butt". It was considered an "oddity". White men exploited this. The same thing is going on but they always scapegoat black men simply because "we are present". They say black men is misogynists and sexist. Never mention the white men that owns these companies and promote the images. The consumers are white males too.
I don't consider the lower income black women as rejects. I point out the "elite black women" pushing interracial dating are pushing for a middle class black women movement into that lifestyle. Generally, these elite black women bloggers don't care for low class black women.
My personal opinion is middle class black women shouldn't be punished for their success when it comes to dating. The low class black women shouldn't be rewarded for have multiple children by different men. The lines blur sometimes because middle class black women act like the supposed "low class" girls they disdain.
I am not happy showing you the obesity rates. I am giving them the cold reality of white men not dating an obese black girl. Now if I am proven wrong then I can accept that.
It seems to me you would rather me ignore their weight, their negative comments about black men and the delusional world they live where white men don't pick them last.
Your last comment about
open marriages, orgies, and the imitation of pornographers/prostitution?
I don't know why black women "participate" in these things. I just hope black men don't get blamed for it
Non black men basically desire black women for sex, not marriage. These men will sleep with black women all day long, but taking the women home to meet the family is all together a different story. That is where the true testament of what he and his family actually thinks about the woman as a person.
Black women may have children from non black men, but society still considers them black. Things are already ugly for black women who are overweight with multiple children out of wedlock. No man of any race wants to shoulder the burden of raising another man's children, when discipline is a problem. These women want men to support them financially, but resent any man that tries to discipline these out of control children. The only people who need to be extinct, are the countless number of black women who give birth voluntarily, to multiple children out of wedlock. These same women are on welfare, and thier daughters end up raising their own children on welfare. This becomes a generational cycle of abuse which cripples these women. These are situations they continuely heap upon themselves, by making poor choices in mates. This is and will continue to be the source of all their misery, but they always want to point their fingers at black men. Just keep your legs shut, and maybe that will solve some of their problem and learn to make better choices.
Alright. Read your response Mr. Laurelton Queens. In the end, the Almighty truly knows best.
Thanks for your response Mrs. Abdul-Rasheed.
I hope you come again. I plan to release "Billie Jean" soon about single black women and the controversial movement about not dating single black mothers.
Some guys had email me about that. There was mixed reviews about it.
I don't advocate black women struggling with children and they shouldn't be exiled from dating because they have children.
Look for that (Billie Jean) " but the kid is not my son".
"You said black men like to kill each other so black women should leave. Nobody likes killing each other. Things are done for a reason. Since you have no concept of the streets and the mentality of it. No black mother wants to leave her son to get killed in the street. So stop the bullshit of moving away. You sound silly and stupid."
If black men keep doing the same thing over and over what else am I to believe BUT that they like it. So many black men express their so-called "masculinity" in violent ways - they act out so VIOLENTLY and VICIOUSLY against each other and black women.
I do not live in a black residential area. I moved away a long time ago - my current neighborhood is about 98% white. I'm not "boasting", just stating a fact. In my old black neighborhood, black men were selling drugs on the street in BROAD OPEN DAYLIGHT. Many of the black males, especially the young ones, in my old neighborhood were ANIMALS. I couldn't walk down the street without being sexually harrassed - black men looooove to call black women "bitches" and "hoes" as we walk down the street MINDING OUR BUSINESS. Yes, I'm glad I left that particular sinking ship (black residential area) behind.
I said that "black women of sound mind will leave their male relatives if those male relatives are not providing anything positive in their lives which in most cases they are not." Of course, I was not referring to underage male CHILDREN. A woman who leaves her underage children (female or male) is breaking the law.
My original comment was that "separating from the vast majority of black males will NATURALLY solve MOST of black women's problems". I should have said "separating from the vast majority of black MEN will NATURALLY solve MOST of black women's problems." Does that sound better? Getting away from the vast majority of black MEN is the best thing that a black woman can do for her physical and emotional well-being.
You black men keep on calling black women out of our names. That along with black men's tendency to want to physically abuse black women is causing more than a few of us to despise you. The last time some random black man called me a "bitch" in the streets for absolutely no reason (not that there could have been a reason), I was so angry I wanted to commit murder. Black men are useless to me and they are useless to the majority of black women. The only thing the majority of black men give to black women are STDs and illegitimate babies which they (black men) leave with the women to raise on their own as best they can.
If black men are useless to you and the majority of black women, why continue to have relationships and children with them? The black population is growing, not shrinking.
STD transmission is a two-way street. Let me ask you this: Uninfected black men don't contract STDs from infected black women?
If the black man is so much of a problem to the black woman why not stop giving birth to black male children? You ready to advocate that too, or am I late? Setup your razor fence and booby-traps around your white man/black woman communities and erect your "No Black Man Allowed" signs. What are you waiting? begin your apartheid regime.
When you were all pushing your gender politics bullshit to uplift one gender while demonizing and tearing down the other, you didn't know what future gender relations were gonna look like? Well this is it. This is how we living. And not much prospect is out there for you with mr white lover, cause he's slipping as well and the white woman and asian woman are more feminine than you, according to one of your irr evangelist. Yea, the hispanic swirl is also on a killing spree south of the border. They can't wait to drop a body in a drum full of acid.
Your best prospect right now is to run off into the amazon jungle and create your lesbian utopia. Isn't that what your feminism was about anyway. Free from the evil monster that is man?
Let me respond to this so called secession movement by sellout black women.
Now they want to "move away" from black men. Well some say the black community in general. Since I live in Williamsport PA, which is 80 percent white. For the record, I live in a black neighborhood.
No matter where you move you will be around "black people". My fiancee was shocked they had a majority black church around here. I happen to like the church. The pastor's son has a dark skin wife. The pastor is a light skin black men. The reason I even point this out they never say dark skin black women practice colorism dating a light skin black men.
I generally avoid arguments with sellout black women when it comes to the "color issue". It is so absurd and stupid but they continue on. I just let them go into their rants about color.
I just say one thing to them. " What about dark skin women with light skin black men". Usually they are stumped or avoid the question.
Now back to anonymous changing her tune. I guess she realized it would be difficult for black women to leave their children, cousins, brother and fathers.
I am sorry you lived in a bad black neighborhood. Nobody says to live in a bad neighborhood. Nobody advocates to be around people doing criminal behavior. How would you like it white people said to you. Oh you can't move here because " we saw other negros selling drugs". I would assume you would feel offended.
That is the problem with chicken george Negros. They think whites will love them when they move away from black people. Where I live is all white. I happen to associate with black people in this all white town. Not on purpose but "it's just the way it is".
So that I moved to a white neighborhood and life was "great" is a silly argument too. Since I actually live that lifestyle. Somebody asked me why I moved to PA a white town. I did it because my fiancee lived here. Plus the cost of living is cheaper than New York. I am not looking for white people to love me unlike these sellout black women.
You mention that black men are useless and only give black women STDs and illegitimate children.
None of that would occur if you close your legs. A lot of problems could be solved if you closed your legs and demand marriage or serious commitments. Instead you whine and complain and act powerless.
The situation plays itself out with white men too. Black women claim they date all these white men. Yet, the statistics show they are not marrying you. Then you make excuses for it.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES. It just sounds sad and pathetic.
"Now back to anonymous changing her tune. I guess she realized it would be difficult for black women to leave their children, cousins, brother and fathers."
I am not changing my tune AT ALL. Responsible black women are not going to leave their underage CHILDREN (female or male) behind for black men to corrupt. Who said ANYTHING about adult male cousins, adult brothers and fathers? I have NO PROBLEM leaving my ADULT male relatives to their own fate. I am noticing that your responses to my comments often have NOTHING to do with the comment itself.
"I am not looking for white people to love me unlike these sellout black women."
I am not looking for white people to love me either. I moved from where I was because I no longer felt SAFE in all-black constructs.
"None of that would occur if you close your legs. A lot of problems could be solved if you closed your legs and demand marriage or serious commitments. Instead you whine and complain and act powerless."
Who is this "you" that you keep referring to. I am a responsible adult. I have no control over what other women do. You are correct some women should make better choices but some men should make better choices as well. After all, if a baby is made and a man has a child support order placed on him he has to pay up or go to jail. If the woman is on welfare she HAS to cooperate with the Child Support Enforcement Agency (CSEA) in her jurisdiction or her benefits will be terminated until she complies with the appropriate authorities.
"Black women claim they date all these white men. Yet, the statistics show they are not marrying you. Then you make excuses for it."
I am seeing more and more black women with white men. What statistics are you talking about?
Your mantra is that white men don't want to marry black women because we're fat and disgusting, among other reasons. It makes you feel good to think that black women "need" black men and that we will wither away and die without you. Apparently you need to believe this. I personally know a number of black women who ARE dating and/or married to white men and they love their lives. These black women are living proof that we don't need black men to be happy.
@Queens,
I never hear black women complain about white men who go into these foreign countries, and have sex with multiple women, only to return to the states and give their wives or girlfriends a STD. Black women are responsible for themselves, and if they are stupid enough to lay down and have sex without protection, then they are bound to get a STD. White men view black women as being promiscuous with several sex partners spreading STD's. I wonder how many white men who live in all white areas, are married to black overweight females with a several illegitimate children? It does not matter which neighborhood a person lives in, crime is everywhere.
Memo to black women: Leave black MEN alone. The majority of black men mean you NO GOOD. The majority of black men DO NOT believe in romance or love or ANY of the "finer" human emotions.
Most black men today only want black women for random, recreational, casual sex. The majority of all-black residential areas are nasty, dirty dangerous places that are UNFIT for WOMEN and underage CHILDREN.
Black women, take your underage children and run, run, run away from black MEN. They are contaminated. Foul. Filthy.
There may be a few "good" black men in America, but since they are hopelessly outnumbered by the black male savages, slackers, drop-outs, felons and creeps the so-called good ones are mostly useless. The so-called "good" black men, by now, are probably afraid to stand up to the black savages because savagery is now the accepted NORM among black men. Black men now define their "masculinity" by how many black men (and sometimes women)they can murder and maim. They SELL DRUGS for a living, if they do anything at all. I'm sure you've heard that HALF of all black men in New York City, for example, are UNEMPLOYED. What do YOU think these black misfits do for a living since they are certainly not gainfully employed?
The ONLY solution is for black women to move away from the cesspool that used to be known as the "black community".
Mr. Laurelton Queens: You CONSTANTLY and GLEEFULLY say that black women are fat and horrible and that this is why "white men pick black women last". This is proof of your HATRED and CONTEMPT for black women. This is your way of saying to black women everywhere, "bitch, get into line or else". But I will never get into line. I am going to stand for truth and the truth is that the majority of black men today mean black women NO GOOD.
Black women: do not have anything to do with any ADULT black male (including ADULT male relatives) unless he is adding something of VALUE to your life. You cannot do this as long as you remain in the so-called black community because they will not allow it. If you try to ignore black men they will harass you and call you names AND their black FEMALE collaborators will call you a "stuck up bitch". This is why you have to remove yourself AND your underage children AWAY from all-black constructs. You must do this NOT because you love white and/or non-black people but because you LOVE YOURSELF and your underage children. Self-love means living in a safe, peaceful environment where a black woman is not subjected to verbal and emotional harassment EVERYTIME she walks out of her door.
And by the way, when a black man harrasses you in the streets, do not hesitate to CALL THE POLICE on him. Complain about it to the authorities loudly and often. Once black women start doing this in significant numbers, non-black people will begin to see that we do not like being harrassed in the streets by black so-called men. Right now, they think we like it because we don't complain. Report the deviant, threatening behavior of black men to the police.
Peace and love my sistas.
Anon said
Memo to black women: Leave black MEN alone. The majority of black men mean you NO GOOD. The majority of black men DO NOT believe in romance or love or ANY of the "finer" human emotions.
Menelik replies:
And the majority of Black women do not believe in stable relationships or in having children from just the ONE father.
Many are mannish, materialistic, argumentative and most unsuitable for anything other than short-term sexual unions. Hence children from multiple partners springing from short-term unions.
Not so much 'Yin & Yan' with some sistas' more man & man!
Does this sound just about right to you, anon?
Anon said:
Black women: do not have anything to do with any ADULT black male (including ADULT male relatives) unless he is adding something of VALUE to your life. You cannot do this as long as you remain in the so-called black community.
Menelik replies:
The idea of having someone like you as a female relative fills me with horror! The sooner the likes of you get aboard the 'Ark' and f*ck off away from all of our people the better!
Menelik Charles
London England
Bro anon asked:
When you were all pushing your gender politics bullshit to uplift one gender while demonizing and tearing down the other, you didn't know what future gender relations were gonna look like?
Menelik replies:
the thing with these ir bloggers is that while white feminists where specific about gender and tended, therefore, to demonise men in general, so-called Black female empowerment bloggers are racially specific and thus demonise BLACK MEN!
Now haven't we been here before? Or maybe we have never left. Maybe Black men are constantly being demonised by WHITE MEN.
Menelik Charles
London England
Dear London and Ms Kitty
The argument these women bring continues to be stupid. Now they are advocating sellout black women to move their underage children and themselves "away" from black people. I figure the white man will get great joy taking in a black woman and her "black" children".
This "fall back on the white man" doctrine is getting old. Then this same person says to move away from "adult" family members. That shows how much they hate their own skin color.
They act like they "bring" so much to the table. Most black men are self sufficient. It is black women and children are below the poverty line. Proposing them to move away from black men does not even make sense.
Obviously, they don't are about the average struggling black woman. Do they even advocate white men to date these "struggling" black woman. NO they don't.
Then they mention what "statistics".
"Cynthia Feliciano and Belinda Robnett collected data from Yahoo personals between September 2004 and May 2005, randomly selecting profiles of people ages 18-50 in the Los Angeles, New York, Chicago and Atlanta metropolitan regions. While white men were more open to dating outside their race than white women, both had specific racial preferences. White men preferred Asian and Latino dating partners to African Americans; white women were more likely to exclude Asian men."
http://www.uci.edu/features/2009/04/feature_datingandrace_090421.php
They had a case study that can you look at concerning white men not being interested in black women.
Then you said this to me
"Mr. Laurelton Queens: You CONSTANTLY and GLEEFULLY say that black women are fat and horrible and that this is why "white men pick black women last". This is proof of your HATRED and CONTEMPT for black women. This is your way of saying to black women everywhere, "bitch, get into line or else". But I will never get into line. I am going to stand for truth and the truth is that the majority of black men today mean black women NO GOOD."
I guess it's me that made 78% of you overweight right? I wonder if the black women bloggers that talk about "weight" being an issue for black women have hate and contempt for black women.
You was rational before but now you are just making excuses and complaining again. If I was a white man saying your obese then you would listen wouldn't you.
Loser.
If these sellout witches think that white men have their back, then they are mistaken. Here's a racist mfer's comment on Black women:
"Willard Libby
Anonymous – Women choose. Men are are chosen. So if black women/white men parings are less common, it follows that black women simply don’t find white men very attractive in the most part. I’m sure if more black women found white guys irresistable, then there would be more pairings along this line. But black women seem to think that white guys are wimpy and easily intimidated.
It obviously soothes your wounded ego to believe this but we all know what the real issue is:
Most White men find most black women to be grotesque. They’re haul ass fugly! And fugly in ways that are extremely unappealing. Not short, little chubby White woman with glasses fugly but big, fat gorilla ass ugly.
White men aren’t “wimpy and easily intimidated” they are simply turned off and grossed out by most black females. It’s harsh to say but it’s true.
Black men on the other hand are obsessed with White women and White women obviously enjoy the racial thrill of being “The Queen of the black man’s dreams”.
So most black men still marry black women. Now the asians on the other hand, really don’t seem to like marrying each other.
Most black males don’t marry anybody regardless of race."
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Would these sellout witches want that guy as a boyfriend? Seriously, they are mentally ill if they do. Only Black men have their backs, not white nor nonblack men.
La Reyna
@anon
"Note: I don't care what happens to those black women who fit into the uneducated, baby mama, ghetto girl, hoochie mama, welfare queen, drug addict, etc., categories. They are lost and that's all there is to it."
That is the majority of the black women. And white men have no desire to create a bi-racial ghetto.
And the cream of the crop of black women, they still do want them, these so called cream of the crop still can't compete with Becky or Sing Loo. Because the black women that may be called the cream of the crop are usually the cream of the crop to black standards only.
Even when you do find a so called highly educated black women she is usually a double for a strong side linebacker in the nfl starting team all pro.
And black women who have this fantasy about marrying a non black man get over it. They will fuck you but never marry you.
Most of you are just not attractive to the great majority of non black men, its just that way get over it.
To anon:
You ain't never lied. The cream of the crop Black women cannot truly compete with Maria, Jenny, Ling, Pocahontas, etc., for the attentions of non-Black men, esp. White men. To a lot of nonblack men, they see the cream of the crop Black women as undeserving affirmative action hires, feminazis, primadonnas, divas, etc. Those guys daily ridicule Michelle Obama, Cynthia McKinney, Anita Hill, etc., in the media. We shouldn't ever forget Don Imus. He really ridicule the college-educated Black women on the Rutgers Basketball team. To those men, they're just another "n" and won't date them at all. They rather date an illegal alien woman from Mexico than to go through going throught the hassles of dating of Black woman regardless of complexion, class, and educational level. That includes the Halle Berry/Mariah/Alicia type along with the Fantasia/Alek Wek/Nia Longs of this world.
To sellout Black women, face it, those guys would rather go to the Philippines for a mail order bride or a sub-par White woman from the deep Midwest than have the likes of you as their wives. Sad, but it is the truth and the truth hurts.
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La Reyna
I read the comments.
I don't want people to believe that I am penalizing black women for being college educated and successful. Some are making the point of is white men willing to date a black women on a "whole".
Somebody made the point that white men do not want to create a biracial ghetto. Society has created ghettos. Simply because of the inequalities in America. Since we have a black president people think things have changed.
Since the recession, I have personally seen more black people struggling and the crime rate is skyrocketing.
I went to a Fourth of July parade in Williamsport PA. I haven't seen so many biracial children running around in one small town in years.
A MAJORITY OF these kids are by white mothers and black men. I just don't see where white men are dating black women.
It seems to be happening at a rapid rate the "other way" around. Even the "Philly" thugs have white baby mothers. They call Williamsport PA " Little Philadelphia".
The black women I saw at the festival had black children. I hardly saw a white male and black female couple.
When I was walking with my fiancee the black girls were loud and noisy. Some of the "wigger" white girls were loud too. This is a "white trash" town. I don't want to give my readers the impression this exclusive to black women.
Yea but they were loud. Teenagers have a tendency to be loud.
In conclusion I actually see more black men "dating outside there race". It is really a shame. The sellout black women "assume" because black men are dating out.
This will equate to white men doing the "same thing" that black men are doing. This has not happened.
Clearly, black women and their image is taking a "beating".
What is the point to all this?
I read your blog and others, and if I were not a bw, I would have a very low opinion of bw based on the information. According to the blogs, no man on God’s green earth would want me. I am loud, overweight, uneducated, and cannot carry on a civilized conversation. Or the opposite, I am a sell-out. If I am “lucky” to trap a man, it is only between my thighs to get pregnant or an STD or both. If I managed to marry a non-bm, it is because he is too weak to stand up to me and I am his last choice after dating the desirable women (non-bw).
However, after being told that I am worthless over and over again, I am supposed use the little energy I have left to uplift bm as long as he works and the bc. I am not seen as an individual, but a collection of bw behaviours.
I AM NOT A STEREOTYE! I am a proud bw. Stop making assumptions about me as a bw, as if I am a stereotype. I am multi-dimensional person.
Where is the positive about bw?
Menelik Charles said... July 3, 2009 6:06 AM
Menelik replies:
“And the majority of Black women do not believe in stable relationships or in having children from just the ONE father.
Many are mannish, materialistic, argumentative and most unsuitable for anything other than short-term sexual unions. Hence children from multiple partners springing from short-term unions.
Not so much 'Yin & Yan' with some sistas' more man & man!
Does this sound just about right to you, anon? “
____________________
Cdnblackchick
I believe in commitment and no children outside of marriage. Unique...not really. When I tell bm this, I am called old fashioned.
All the women in my family got married before having a child. All the men in my family got married before having a child. (I have 25 first cousins and counting from legitimate means.)
Again, with the lame stereotypes.
Mannish – So, I am to understand that you have met us all to make this assumption. I visited London two years ago and the ww were more “ball buster/bulky” than beautiful and they did not walk with grace.
If you do not want to date bw, just say that. Why do you have to qualify your preference with a negative stereotype?
Materialist – We live in a materialistic society. So, only bw are impacted by this while the rest of the female population is immune? So when, Heather Mills was awarded 24 million pounds for a 4 year marriage, she was being what exactly?
Argumentative – Who is not argumentative today? Do you mean arguing a point well or not well?
I agree that white men do not want a "biracial ghetto" because he would be creating more black males. The presence of more black males would be intimidating to white men in numerous ways. Black women do not want to face the fact that white men are not interested in them as longterm partners. How many professional athletes or entertainers are there actually married to black women? It is a very small percentage. Not all races of women are enthusiastic about white men. Being iinvolved with white men is a hell of its own. White men involved with black women know that they are going to be treated like second class citizens, and they face alienation, mostly by white peers. IR relationships are very difficult to maintain, especially if the persons buckle under pressure from family, friends, and society.
I don't understand why Anon is trying to convince black women on this blog to distance themselves from black men. Black women here are in support of black men. This person is fighting a losing battle because we don't hate the fact that we are black, but we embrace who and what we are.
@Queens,
If black women feel that their images are taking a beating, than maybe they should solicit the white male population to promote a more positive image, since he is the one who has promoted all the negative stereotypes about black men and women. This should not be a problem if white men are truly interested in black women and how they are perceived by society. Hahaha.
Queens, it does not matter what you believe, people will always take what you say out of context, because they do not like the premise of this blog and what you stand for. For example, some of these women state you hate black women. I have never read that comment from you since I joined this blog.
And the majority of Black women do not believe in stable relationships or in having children from just the ONE father.
Many are mannish, materialistic, argumentative and most unsuitable for anything other than short-term sexual unions. Hence children from multiple partners springing from short-term unions.
Not so much 'Yin & Yan' with some sistas' more man & man!
Anon said:
Again, with the lame stereotypes.
Mannish – So, I am to understand that you have met us all to make this assumption.
I visited London two years ago and the ww were more “ball buster/bulky” than beautiful and they did not walk with grace.
Menelik replied:
And am I to assume you've met all white-British women? What's with the "lame stereotypes" sista friend?
I responded to stereotypes about African-American men made above and you say nothing until similar stereotypes are made about African-American women.
What's with the lack of judicial balance, sista?
Menelik Charles
London England
Cdnblackchick said:
Materialist – We live in a materialistic society. So, only bw are impacted by this while the rest of the female population is immune?
So when, Heather Mills was awarded 24 million pounds for a 4 year marriage, she was being what exactly?
Menelik Charles replies:
And a single example of materialism represents "what exactly"? It hardly supports whatever case you're making, does it, dear?
It appears that you are awfully comfortable with stereotypes made about Black men but go plain crazy when alleged steretypes are made re Black women!
Cdnblackchick said
If you do not want to date bw, just say that. Why do you have to qualify your preference with a negative stereotype?
Menelik Charles replies:
And why do you have ask questions in which you have already assumed the answers? I absolutely DO NOT DATE OUTSIDE OF MY RACE!
Have I made myself clear????
Menelik Charles
London England
That was my point! Taking one example and assuming that everyone fits into the same box without considering how multi-dimensional everyone is. Get it.
I responded to the misinformation of bw because I am one. How do you expect me to truly understand the impact of negative stereotypes on bm when I am not one?
I grew up with a loving father. He encouraged me to be the best at everything I was passionate about.
Also, he (and my mother) encouraged my siblings and me to date/marry a good person with inner strength, passion, and a life plan. I did not respond to the negative re: bm because I do not buy into all bm acting this way.
I even shared my positives about bm on bw blogs. I stated that there were good bm out there and I was fortunate enough to have them as great role models and protectors as I grew up. I got flack and I responded to the flack and I did not back down.
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"Menelik Charles replies:
And why do you have ask questions in which you have already assumed the answers? I absolutely DO NOT DATE OUTSIDE OF MY RACE!"
Please accept my apology for my assumption.
About a year ago, I came onto the net due to a specific comment. In my research, I discovered videos and blogs that opened me up to trash talk about bm/bw I did not know existed in such a vile extreme. For a year, I consumed and allowed this information to make me angry. My friends and family noticed a change in my personality (normally upbeat).
Recently, I read one of Sara’s blogs and she talked about reading and watching damaging information and its impact on one’s subconscious. It touched on the importance of putting positive information in and self care.
This weekend, I thought about my last blog (July 4) and Sara’s article while I sat by the lake hanging with my family. When I returned to my home, I realized I was done with all the blogs. I am now ready to move on and reclaim the positives in my life again. Especially in this economy, I have an a-w-f-u-l lot to be grateful for.
Peace and love out
Now, I am going to enjoy my pomegranate martini on my patio and plan my trip to Turkey and Portugal.
Bye
Dear Everyone
I would like to thank everyone for their comments. I am sorry if you have to take a break from blogs. Blogs is like cable news. Some people like Fox News and some people CNN. I happen to like BBC News lol.
I think blogs are good. You normally get conversation going that normally wouldn't happen. I think black men and women are afraid to speak to each other. To be honest with you.
They say I hate black women. I don't hate anybody. I get in a heated conversation with them but it is never personal. If it was really like that, then I wouldn't even pay attention.
Dating is a sore issue for women in general. I happen to think black women are the most vocal about dating issues. Of course they will get a bad rap. I have observed white women complain about men too. I have never seen a Latin or Asian women complain on national television about dating. Somebody asked me where I got male bashing from.
I remember it so vividly. My mother and my Aunt went to see Waiting to Exhale. At the time, every black woman it seemed in the world went to see that movie. This is prior to the Tyler Perry bullshit. My aunt is a nurse and was married to a doctor, ended up cheating on him with Marvin Gaye lookalike "piano maker". The piano maker cheated on her. So my aunt been dating "Stedman types" ever since. By the way, my aunt is one of those "stern" red bone Jamaican women. Hard worker, didn't put up with shit. Anyway, she says to me in her Long Island home. I didn't like waiting to exhale while she was watching "Oprah". My aunt loves Oprah. I said why? She said "it bashes black men to much". I was young at the time and I "shrugged". I didn't know what the hype was about until later on when I started to do this blog.
The moral of the story not all black women think the same way. Ms Kitty and La Reyna represent a segment of black women that disagree with your approach. Burning the damn house down while you in it don't make sense.
If I am wrong please point it out to me.
I will agree with Cdnblackchick that the blog makes it look like black women are undesirable. I try to amuse people but it can come off a little bit insensitive.
I stand by 90 percent of the pictures. The reason for that is because some black women "think is cute". Also I want to see the reactions of some black women.
Somebody said that I am trying to portray lower class black women as "worthless". I don't think any black woman is worthless but I am a middle class black man.
It would be hard not to be biased about certain situations that I saw in the "hood". I have dated women that were from "rough areas". I have dated black women that were highly educated from upper class homes.
The common denominator I have seen is ALL OF THEM have dated "all types of black men". From ghetto to "church types" to "older men".
Another common denominator I have seen is "weight issues" too. Let me clarify the weight thing because some people think I am being mean. You maybe the best women in the world to a man.
If the man can't get past your weight to see that. You can't expect a man to love you as you are. Some black women say "accept me as I am". There is a difference between acceptance and giving up on yourself. It is deeper than weight. It's about do you care enough about your health and a real "serious relationship" heading to marriage.
This is for the women who are 200+ and above. Bottom line if you high standards for men to be with you. You should be aware that can be applied to you.
Great blog.
Thanks for exposing these SICK black women who hate their own people.
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